You are the last person who needs reminding that life is a school of hard knocks, filled with the exhilarating chaos on which your nature thrives, aided by a potentially wicked sense of humor and a polished, charismatic air. I can almost see you adopting a James Bond air, blowing those cheeks, wiping that brow, and saying, ―Tell me about it...but I live to fight another day!ǁ Pain and pleasure are the twinned realities of life, though I suspect you‘ve known more pain due to living life on the edge, leaping in with both feet, and learning as you go. Of all profiles, you are the most likely to stick your fingers into an electric socket just to find out what goes on in there! You are your own worst enemy, such is your insatiable inquisitiveness and curiosity. You like to leave no stone unturned in your pursuit of reward and joy, and there is an indefatigable spirit to the way you embrace life, come what may. 3/5 profiles are here for a fast-track lifetime. In failure, trauma, and survival, you glean wisdom. Life will bounce you into dead ends, heartbreak, crushing disappointment, and wrong situations while asking you to take the blessings in disguise. It‘s almost as if your role is to witness, endure, or lead from the front in order to educate and guide others. You are a capable and adaptable leader in a crisis, with a wisdom that shapes a visionary element, and there is something of the rebel in you, wanting to challenge authority and point out what is and isn‘t working. You want to be a force for change in all areas of life. Your adaptability makes you expert in a storm of crisis, because you‘ve been there, done that, and know how the drama ends! Your understanding of life also arms you with a natural forgiveness. The fascinating mix of this profile is the third-line element, which needs the juice of life, together with the illusory yet hypnotic nature of the fifth line. This turns you into a charismatic, persuasive seducer, subtly reeling others into relationships, projects, or pursuits. But it is a profile that is noncommittal by nature and doesn‘t wish to hang around if there is not a sustainable engagement with its interest. Nevertheless, you are always strategizing, seeing how it can all work in your best interests, toying with experimental and grand ideas. If I were in conversation with you, there would be an outgoing, engaging eagerness about your communication style and obvious zest for life. I daresay you could come across as a bit of a dreamer, but doubtless there would be a multitude of crazy anecdotes, all carried off with a self-deprecating humor concealing the pain of the time. When you fall back on your sharp wit, you are one of the funniest people around. Humor is both your medicine and your master deflector. But not all 3/5s can look on the bright side. Life can become too much and leave you defeated. You can get to the point where all you crave is a settled life. You are done with the trials, tribulations, and tests and want to throw in the towel. When 3/5 profiles feel beaten, despite their best efforts, they surrender. But their nature will not rest and will always seek to propel them into a fresh adventure. So surrendering will only exacerbate any inner frustrations. The third line will never stop catapulting the 3/5 into all sorts of relationships, projects, travels, travails, purchases, and lifestyles. The unconscious fifth line sometimes paddles hard to make real life match the fantasies. Ultimately, you are seeking the reward for your hardship. You are always seeking that special someone who can bring inner peace amid the chaos. When that person is found, commitment is total. In accepting chaos, you accept yourself. Life will never be a destination but is an eternal journey. Embrace it, find medicine in laughter, and absorb all the consequential wisdoms that make people admire you so much. And at the end of your days, I guarantee you will have traveled, loved and lost, succeeded and failed, and amassed a veritable library of personal experiences to recall and ponder.
Relationships with a 3/5 It is quite possible that 3/5 partners have no real idea of how restless they are, particularly in a relationship. Of course, they will have the gift of gab and say all the right things, but as they‘re stroking your face and whispering sweet nothings, keep an eye out for the feet inching toward the exit door. An escape clause should be written into any love contract with a third-line element, especially when coupled with the dreamy nature of the fifth line, which brings a strong degree of romanticism and big promises. The 3/5 profile is forever in search of the perfect relationship and will not compromise its ideals. Did I say ―perfectǁ? What I meant to say was ―purrr-fect.ǁ These people need to be met, and understood, on every possible level before they give 100 percent commitment. These are highly selective individuals when searching for a life mate. One thing you need to appreciate is the essential ingredient to throw into the mix with a 3/5 partner — laughter. Let life bring the dark side; let you be the source of light. They can be deeply emotional partners, but the tears of laughter need to balance the tears of pain. Grant them this much and you will come to know and admire a true ally and arbiter and the bridge builder of an unpredictable but exciting future. When 3/5s feel they have met their match, they bring the greatest level of commitment and stability to a relationship that is possible. Just be prepared to be dragged off in pursuit of big dreams!
FAMOUS 3/5 PEOPLE Jane Austen, Beethoven, Tony Blair, Gisele Bündchen, Winston Churchill, Jodie Foster, Ernest Hemingway, Angelina Jolie, JFK, J. Z. Knight, Rupert Murdoch, Ralph Nader, Dolly Parton, Diana Ross, William Shatner, and Meryl Streep
Compatibility Your ideal matches are with other 3/5s and 6/2 profiles, but away from that synergy you also find common ground with 3/6, 5/1, 5/2, and 6/3 profiles. The Right Angle Cross of Service
Your Cross brings four logical energies together. The lead energy is opinion. With opinion energy, there is a great drive to correct and organize things so you can live a healthy, longer and more joyful life. You serve people through the logical energies of guidance, organization and correction. There maybe a drive to feel as if you are a healer, but it is important to understand that you are the guide and each person must take their own steps to truly heal.
10 Channel of Survival 57 From the Self to the Spleen
You have an intuitive interaction with life on the edge — dancing with danger, toying with risk — and yet you always seem to survive. That‘s because you can rely on the Spleen‘s intuitive survival mechanism, which, somehow, guides you through life‘s minefield. You are someone who could jump from the Eiffel Tower and somehow land on your feet! There is, therefore, a sense of the indestructible risk taker about you. The 10-57 seems to bless you with an invisible protection shield in the activities you undertake and the decisions you make. Without doubt, you are better protected than most in life. This doesn‘t mean that you should take silly risks, but you‘ll discover you have an inexplicable knack for dodging danger and getting out of trouble. ―How do you get away with it?ǁ people will often say. You‘ll be the one person who is fine when the rest of your table is down with food poisoning, or the person who sidesteps a falling piano in the street. There‘s nothing logical about this channel. It just happens. I always joke that the safest — and luckiest — seat in life is the one next to you! You must learn to trust this automatic intuition rising from the Spleen. It‘s a visceral intuition based on what ―soundsǁ right. Your being detects vibrations every second of the day, pointing out which people, environments, and choices are right. It makes you as alert as a lightly sleeping cat, twitching at the slightest noise or change in environment and then awakened to instant alertness. Any channel emerging from gate 10 denotes a strong sense of identity and love of life. For you, that shows up as living life to the fullest. You can entertain fears about the future but this is balanced by knowing that everything will work out just fine... somehow. You will tend to feel the fear and do it anyway, whether it‘s about a pursuit, project, or relationship.
17 Channel of the Organizer 62 From the Mind to the Throat
You are an organizer and strategist who expresses logic, someone who absorbs all the facts, details, and politics of a situation and then threads them all together to form your own concrete opinion or recommendation. You will be so well informed that few will doubt the convincing arguments you put forward. Futuristic think tanks, managerial positions, and any campaign would benefit from your methodical mind, which is forever looking into the future to find solutions for systems, projects, and people. The activation with the Throat emerges as an expression that may sound something like ―I think this should happen...ǁ or ―I think we should do this...ǁ Of course, this mind-set means you can be highly opinionated and adopt a forceful debating style. The activation between the Mind and the Throat brings an urgency to speak your mind. So be wary of expressing untimely and unwanted opinions. If you‘re not selective in this regard, what you have to say may well lose its impact. I knew a man with this channel who could sit for three hours on end giving his opinions, spouting forth on every facet of life. His captive audiences would sit in awe of the power of his arguments. Then, three days later, he‘d return with a modified view, completely undermining what he had set in stone previously! This is typical of the 17-62, because even when you‘ve stated your case, it doesn‘t mean you won‘t retreat into your mind once more, review your own argument, and embrace completely different conclusions. You are someone who will continue to investigate everything that confronts you, and your mind is a great asset to you, because it‘s capable of seeing the way ahead.
18 Channel of Judgment 58 From the Spleen to the Root
Armed with a perfectionist streak, you scrutinize society, looking for ways to improve everything for the benefit of everyone. You sit in impartial judgment, pointing out what is and what isn‘t working. It is a continual assessment with the goal of enhancing the social, working, and living environments around you. Everything from the health service, education system, and economy to the local supermarket and neighbor‘s garden could and should be improved — and you know exactly how! It‘s an instantaneous judgment that is never considered, because of the spontaneous signals from the Spleen. But there is a tendency to challenge everything and campaign for change for the sake of it. Your intentions are well meant but can lead to misunderstandings, especially if your judgment is misdirected into your personal life. If you don‘t restrain the 18-58, great conflict can arise in relationships because you‘ll be viewed as being overcritical. Learn to reserve judgment for the public sector rather than applying it in personal relations. Your ability to point out where things can be improved is a great asset within companies or communities. You are the consummate consultant, troubleshooter, overseeing authority — and art or restaurant critic, but you can also be your own worst enemy, turning the ever-critical eye inward. You can be needlessly hard on yourself, so I always tell people with this channel to cut themselves some slack and appreciate that not even they can be perfect. Instead, realize that you have the gift of correcting and improving society‘s failings with your spontaneous recommendations, appraisals, and rulings. Fall back on your authority and make sure you‘re applying your abilities in the right direction and then you‘ll feel fulfilled.
29 Channel of Discovery 46 From the Sacral to the Self
―OK, here comes the whirlwind. Life‘s going to get interesting, so fasten your seat belts and hang on to your hats!ǁ When someone says this, you can bet that a 29-46 has just entered the scene, bringing the potential to embrace success. You are someone who is here to immerse yourself in the discoveries of life — if only you can ditch the attached expectations. These days, everyone wants guarantees of success before committing, but with this channel, you‘re designed to dive in without thinking and derive the value of the experience itself. And then you‘ll find something magical happens: success naturally finds you. It‘s as if the Universe hears that you‘re in it for the value of the experience and wishes to reward you for what life intended. It also knows there is a natural potential, locked within the Sacral, for you to succeed where others fail. Post that motto on your door or desk: ―I succeed where others fail.ǁ The truth of this channel is that if you commit to the right people and projects, the sky is the limit. But therein lies the key: the activation to the Self means it‘s vital that you have clarity and passion for what you‘re doing. Then the potent mix of life-force energy with love of the physical dance of life generates such a whirlwind and such dedication that failure is out of the question. Once you receive an affirmative gut response to engage, the clock goes out the window as you become an all- consumed embodiment of what you‘re doing, losing yourself in the experience. Nothing can distract you, and the Channel of Discovery is intended to embrace success, because with that rare combination of energy and passion motoring within, you‘re the one person who can make it happen. It is a sight to behold as you dissolve into the totality of an experience, and partners must learn to appreciate your all-consumed nature. I compare it to watching the mystical dance of a whirling dervish. It starts slowly but, as the tempo and music quicken, the dervish spins so fast that the dancer disappears, becoming the whirl. The 29-46 is one of four ―tantric channels.ǁ Although tantra is a word often associated with sex, it actually denotes the potential for transmuting energy from a lower to higher form. With the 29-46, you turn the ordinary into the extraordinary. This is why you‘ll have countless people seeking your input to launch their own rockets. Use your gut response to commit correctly and selectively, and immerse yourself in one experience at a time. Do this, and a life of fulfilling discovery and success is within reach every time.
Gate 17 The Gate of the Following
Life is a stream of agreements and disagreements and requires a certain degree of flexibility if we are to find accord in social environments — and there is no better diplomat or debater than you! Gate 17 is not afraid of being strongly opinionated but also entertains a broad spectrum of views about all aspects of life. So you love nothing more than your opinions being tested and can encourage fair debate that hears both sides of any story. This logical thinking allows a fostering of cooperation and understanding between all opposing sides and foes, be that in your own circles or the world at large. And in all situations you can be both forceful and fair. You‘re likely to entertain opinions about almost everything and to ponder them while always remaining alert to the input of others. The flip side is that you sometimes become dogmatic and fixed in your views. But your mind just needs to remain open without attachment to any strident views. There is a natural inclination within you to be fair, balanced, and impartial. What matters to you is the quality of the life you envisage and you‘re quick to follow the views of anyone who can show you a way of enhancing it.
Gate 11 The Gate of Harmony
This gate is rich with imagination, cultivating ideas capable of bringing about social harmony. It is involved with the promotion and teaching of peace and consideration between people, always seeking new ways of bringing everyone into agreement in the home, the workplace, relationships, or the environment. You are forever thinking of new ideas to keep things fresh and evolving. You easily dispense with outdated methods or concepts that no longer seem relevant. In your eyes, the power of consensus is far greater than the power of an individual. That explains why your ideas tend to be in the interests of the collective, as opposed to only yourself. You‘re also someone who will remind the individual of their responsibilities to everyone else. Conservationist Al Gore has this gate on, which is why he has been banging his drum about individuals contributing to the well-being of the Earth by being more environmentally responsible. With a balanced view of the bigger picture, you, too, are capable of pushing ideas that can strengthen the world around you. The motto of this gate is ―Change for the better.ǁ
Gate 62 The Gate of Expressed Details
You are highly conscientious and your expression for detail fosters a broad understanding of potentially complicated concepts and stories. While others may well be getting entangled in the morass of information, you will find clarity with a voice from the Throat that says something like ―I think you‘ll find that...ǁ and, all of a sudden, the fog clears and everyone gets it. Indeed, it‘s hard for you to be misunderstood. Gate 62 doesn‘t miss a trick and you will provide a supply of factual, logical, thorough information, whether it is what you say, the notes you leave, the instructions you provide, or the plans you make. Honoring detail supports your performance in every regard. When you speak, you are authoritative and compelling. Consequently, your audience is assured by the authenticity of what it hears, knowing the ―devil is in the detail.ǁ Your natural ability to express both general and little-known information can sound so convincing that you could almost turn fiction into fact or persuade someone black is white. Remember, your provision of detail doesn‘t mean you have to get involved in the follow-through. An observance of detail tends to come about with a sense of detachment or objectivity.
Gate 12 The Gate of Standstill
This gate makes you naturally cautious or sheepish about most things in life. It emerges as a voice that expresses concern as ―I‘m a bit cautious about this...ǁ or ―I‘m not sure about that...ǁ and you will sometimes appear reticent about striding forward in life. You often have to stand aside from the mad rush to work out your next move. Are you here to trudge through life and focus on all the hazards? Or can you be allowed to dream and aspire to greater things? Generally you will always err on the side of caution, sometimes unsure what it is that you are feeling. There is a strong but cautious tone when you speak, and this can frustrate some people. That‘s because from your place of standstill in a world that‘s running around in circles, you get a sense of what is coming, making you wary about things that might appear unproblematic to everyone else. Conversely, it can make you chase things that go beyond the bounds of ordinary imagination. Gate 12 dares you to dream, sometimes unrealistically of a fairer, more idealistic world. From Standstill comes the potential to make great leaps in the evolution and expansion of human endeavor — and the equal potential to dither and procrastinate because your vision can extend farther than you sense you can jump. You know, though, that when you do speak, what you can say can move people and inject confidence in them, because they know you‘ve exercised caution and discrimination before saying your piece.
Gate 10 The Gate of Behavior
You tend to have a unique, individual expression of behavior, stemming from a self-respect that is unafraid of what anyone else thinks. Gate 10 represents a love for the journey of life and behaves in a way that is good for you — and you alone. How you behave, especially under pressure, is dependent on a sliding scale of self-worth, but you would hate to know your actions had done you an injustice or let others down. Indeed, you like to think your unique expression and approach can positively influence how others behave around you. One thing that underpins all your deeds, manners, and actions is an inherent love of life. So as long as your demeanor matches this joie de vivre, you‘re on the right track! This is one of four ―love gates,ǁ and the Universe‘s intention is for you to bask in self-love and love life itself. In a sense, having this gate allows you to withstand all the bumps along your way, accepting any indignities heaped on you and staying true to your own vision and trust in life — and yourself. Of course, real life, hard knocks, and the conditioning of others may well have tainted this natural trust. But gate 10 wants you to be comfortable in your own skin and expression, without trying, without fitting in. Individual expression, aligned with what you know to be right and true, brings integrity. There is a need for freshness and you can be versatile and adapt your approach to whatever challenges, troubles, or new directions show up. But happiness only exists when you are following your path, in line with your authority, whether it suits anyone else or not.
Gate 25 The Gate of Innocence
There is a gentle, childlike innocence about you that belies a life that is often complicated and demanding. You almost have a secret smile for adversity, because you have a deep trust that the Universe will look after you and love will conquer all. You can therefore embrace the unexpected, knowing you will come through. This is one of four ―love gates,ǁ and you attune to a universal, unconditional form of love that stands in the face of unexpected chaos and drama and keeps on growing wise. You interact with the world with honesty, truthfulness, and sincerity. How you express yourself is rarely premeditated and often comes with the innocence of a child, regardless of repercussions and sometimes leaving your loving nature vulnerable to being taken advantage of by others. Your good virtue can forgive transgressions but doesn‘t forget them. You are a tender being who is susceptible to rude and obnoxious people, so avoid them if you can. Your innocence — which can be misinterpreted as reckless naïveté — can‘t quite grasp why certain people have such a problem with life when love is all around. ―What is their problem?ǁ is something you might often catch yourself saying. For those who wish to offer a reply, they must be ready for your stock response: ―I hear you, but just trust in life.ǁ You might attempt healing in the world through your unwavering love and trust, but never underestimate your own need for recuperation when a challenge has been overcome.
Gate 46 The Gate of Serendipity
You have a knack of being in the right place at the right time, living the very definition of the word serendipity — accidentally discovering something beneficial or fortunate, even when looking for something or someone else. They say that at least half of success in life is down to simply showing up. However, luck is not only about being in the right place at the right time but is also reliant on your attitude while there! For you, fortune smiles when you are available and trusting. Watch the personal advancement that can happen when you fall back on an inner confidence that is ready for anything that life serves up. This gate naturally tunes in to the Universe‘s need for your presence and gives you experiences that may bring recognition or essential lessons. You need to let go of expectation and be open to all experiences offered. Gate 46 is another of the ―love gates,ǁ and its essence is all about the love of the body. So keeping trim and healthy and looking after the physical form helps foster your serendipitous nature. Keeping fit is an essential part of your life. Or maybe you have a strong inclination to keep going to the gym or spa, but a conditioning influence holds you back. Your true nature appreciates nothing more than your body being honed and pampered, and you need to take responsibility for your body; otherwise, you will feel down and frustrated. So book that massage, take a run with the dog, schedule those manicures and pedicures, reserve that spa day, and implement a good diet. When your body is purring, you are ready for anything!
Gate 6 The Gate of Conflict Resolution
You stand as a giant set of scales, balancing high emotions in one hand and clear resolution in the other. Your presence in any situation can either inflame circumstances or calm them. It all depends on the clarity you bring with you as the chief diplomat who weighs each situation on its merits. You accept that for some creative processes and alliances to grow, there has to be a certain amount of friction. At other times, you need to be the peacemaker. Many things in life are emotionally driven and not rational. Gate 6 has the responsibility of bringing clarity to these situations. You can find it hard, sometimes, to remain on the tightrope with the scales in hand, lurching from the extremes of ―Get me out of here!ǁ to ―Now listen to me, it‘s like this!ǁ But you seek resolution by meeting people halfway, seeking compromise and settling matters creatively, equitably, and with a sense of justice. You can be the arbiter at work or in relationships. Gate 6 is built on a furrowed field where seeds for emotional growth can sprout and flourish. There is a maturity to this emotional gate. Physically, Conflict Resolution regulates the pH in our body‘s chemistry, representing that fine balance between acid and alkaline that counts for so much of our well-being. If you overindulge in any areas of your life, you can lose that balance. Overindulgence comes in many forms, from greed to anger to addiction, from overeating to being oversexed. Conflict Resolution fosters an internal balance, an emotional awareness, and the responsibility to bring an equilibrium into life. This is a powerful emotional gate, meaning your emotions rule the environment you‘re in. How you feel dictates how everyone else is going to feel. Clear feelings — clear environment; unclear feelings — trouble!
Gate 29 The Gate of Commitment
In 2008 a Jim Carrey movie called Yes Man was released, in which a man challenged himself to say ―yesǁ to everything life offered him over the course of a year. It could have been made with gate 29 in mind! Certainly ―yesǁ can open the doorway to all sorts of amazing things for you, but unlike in Hollywood, a wholesale ―yesǁ can find you overloaded, taken for granted, and thoroughly depleted without feeling fulfilled. My experience of people with this attribute is that you can struggle to contain an indiscriminate ―yesǁ to anything and everything, regardless of troublesome outcomes. ―Can I borrow some money?ǁ ―Yes!ǁ ―Will you come over and mow my lawn while I watch TV?ǁ ―Yes!ǁ ―And while you‘re at it, will you let me spoil your day?ǁ ―Yes! Yes! Yes! No problem!ǁ This arises from a predisposition to commit without any awareness of the commitment in hand. I know people with this gate who forever overextend themselves, getting caught up in every flight of fancy that goes past them and ending up burned out and frustrated. And this well-intentioned but frustrating pattern is in danger of being repeated over and over almost mechanically. Commitment becomes a gift when you say ―yesǁ to the right things, but a potential curse when engaged without clarity. Remember, you are searching for a ―yesǁ that is in genuine alignment with your nature.
Gate 5 The Gate of Waiting
You are someone whose nature has the knack of right timing — if you exercise patience. Gate 5 asks you to be comfortable with biding your time, waiting for opportune moments. When you learn to trust your authority you‘ll align yourself with universal timing and know the right moment to act. That need to wait can generate a restlessness that craves action or worries that something may or may not happen. You can feel the potential of what can be done and just can‘t wait for the starting gun to sound. ―I can‘t stand all this waiting around! Shouldn‘t I be doing something?!ǁ can be a common voice of frustration. But waiting is a part of your nature, so honor it and relax. Gate 5 also has its finger on the natural pulse of timing for the seasons and you might well have green fingers that are adept at gardening. You may also notice that you can adopt certain routines in life. If you are someone who needs to have a cup of tea first thing in the morning, that is what needs to happen before you can do anything else. A routine leads you to keep in step with the natural rhythms that maintain your momentum. Like you, the Universe has its routines, and I‘m reminded of a Japanese haiku that you can assimilate while you wait: Sitting silentlydoing nothingspring comesand the grass grows — by itself. So just wait, trust your innate sense of timing, set your intentions and long-term goals, and fall back on the reassuring confidence that matters will proceed in their own time.
Gate 42 The Gate of Increase
The ethic within gate 42 wants to realize potential everywhere, and its energy is such that what you receive matches what you give. This give-and-take dynamic models the truth of ―what goes around, comes aroundǁ and this is a truth that finds alignment with your nature. When you undertake to help others and strive toward the common good, rewards flow back to you. If you become self-serving, then Increase becomes blocked. You don‘t find fulfillment when you become the sole beneficiary of your actions. This gate expands rich experiences that can be shared generously with everyone. It is not confined to personal benefits. It recognizes that the Universe is so generous that there is more than enough to go around. You have the capacity to tap into this natural surfeit, harnessing your abilities to further other people in their efforts to become successful. You might well wonder why you should do all the hard work for them, but your flair and sustainable energy will make things happen for you, too, as a consequence of your actions. It‘s a natural law. Just as a gardener tends his or her own garden and watches numerous plants prosper, so it is with Increase. If you sense that you could gain greater personal prosperity through your efforts, be watchful that you do only one thing at a time, in accord with your authority, and avoid spreading yourself too thin. This gate encourages you to realize that giving is more important than receiving — and the sure path to increase and reward.
Gate 3 The Gate of Beginning
Embracing all the trials involved with new beginnings and fresh starts is the hallmark of gate 3. You plant seeds to foster new beginnings but require patience for your plans to grow and blossom. Whenever something new is introduced, it can meet resistance and difficulty. Your challenge is to find the means to bring about change in ways that are accepted and assimilated by yourself and others. A foundational imperative, therefore, is to wipe the slate clean, become organized, draw up fresh plans, prepare the infrastructure, and ensure everything is geared for the transition you seek to push forward. Something can only truly grow from solid foundations, be it a personal or professional matter, so your preparation is almost as important as your execution. Then, with everything ready, you must await the green light... from your authority. One thing you must learn to appreciate is that endeavors originating from Beginning will evolve spontaneously and in their own time, so it is pointless to apply pressure and to wear a hole in the carpet as you pace the floor waiting for things to happen. Also be aware that fresh beginnings can only prosper once old disappointments, failures, and resentments have been honestly cast aside. Once you‘ve respected all the requirements of this natural process, you‘ll be amazed at the fulfillment you can experience. Projects can be kick-started with fresh invigoration, and relationships can feel brand-new.
Gate 52 The Gate of the Mountain
When you stand and observe Mount Kilimanjaro, Everest, or K2, the first thing you‘ll notice in your awe is the stillness that defies time. No matter what thunderclouds envelop them, blue skies surround them, or people climb all over them, they are immovable. With gate 52, you are a mountain, containing the same core strength and carrying a silent stillness that others admire. Whenever there is a situation that calls for your attention or a drama that brings pressure for you to get involved, remember that from the Mountain you have an unparalleled view of things and can bring an unrivaled perspective. This also means you can sometimes be immovable and obstinate, but your clarity is what counts. There is always something considered and sure about your input. You know when it is time for action and when it is time to keep still and reflect. For you, the Root‘s built-in pressure to expand and evolve means allowing that pressure to build and build until you are launched into activity. From your vantage point, you know where the better future lies and the improvements your input can make. As the world goes crazy around you, you can be still and remind everyone that ―This too will pass!ǁ
Gate 32 The Gate of Duration
Just as farmers, deep-sea fishermen, and sailors can detect the slightest shift in weather, so you can sense shifting circumstances in your world. Gate 32 ―smellsǁ when something threatens to bring instability or unrest. It could concern a relationship, a venture, the economy, or the community, but you‘ll sniff it out and become twitchy when change is coming. That‘s because your nature seeks a path that is sure but steady. Enduring relationships and careers, shored up with commitment, are what your life is all about and your goals are long term. ―Going the distanceǁ should be the motto of this gate because you‘d be quite happy if life found a plateau, just as long as that plateau promised continuity and long-term success. The longevity, consistency, and sustainability of things matter, so whatever change you engage with must smell right first. People, places, and projects are forever coming under such hound like scrutiny. As you pivot on the spot, there is an unshakable sense that, whatever you face, your resolve will sail through any storm or challenge. You will do all you can to avoid failure, because that is the biggest fear within you. This fear will be more prevalent if your Spleen is undefined. When fear starts chipping away at your endurance, remember to trust your authority.
Gate 58 The Gate of Joyous Vitality
We‘ve all seen a newborn baby kick out eagerly or start giggling at the mere sight of an adult face. In the early days of life, we embrace the pure and natural vitality we are given by the Universe because we don‘t know any different, but for a lot of people it is a sensation that is soon lost. Not if you have gate 58, though. Then your cup runneth over with pure vitality, and the more you share, the more comes to you. You trust in life and this becomes contagious, a natural spark capable of igniting everyone around you. You make a difference to the world with a natural exuberance that trusts in the challenges and windfalls that come your way. You seem to have an insatiable appetite to have it all — and savor it all. You run in the rain as much as you bask in the sun. But this can lead to you getting swept away by exuberance. So your lesson is to continue to see the joy in everything but to commit to that which resonates. This exuberance can be experienced as an internal pressure compelling you to hurl yourself into life, but the task is to become wise and engage with experiences that bring joy on your terms. For example, being a party animal doesn‘t mean having to attend every single party unless it really appeals to you. There is always an essential balance in your life between the gifts that come to you and what it is you offer and give to others. As a natural celebrant of life, enjoy the dance!
Gate 18 The Gate of Improving
There is a Chinese saying that states, ―Work on what has been spoiled,ǁ and the essence of the message is that we can undo damaging patterns from childhood and become whole again. With this gate, there is an inclination, even a yearning, to undertake inner work that heals the scars left by parents, relatives, teachers, or society Something can be ―spoiledǁ by accepting somebody else‘s way of doing things as being cast in stone, and that can be personally disempowering. This can relate to patterns from your childhood in the way you‘ve been raised, or fossilized traditions with no relevance to your present-day life. Gate 18‘s goal is to review the old ways and traditions to bring about improvement for yourself and society. The Improving gate senses when you are being overly hard on yourself and perhaps blaming yourself for episodes from the past. It therefore nudges you into addressing matters that, once healed, will make your nature sing with a newfound freedom. It provides an inner prod to be aware of certain attributes that might have been ―borrowedǁ or ―imprintedǁ through conditioning and have nothing to do with your nature. Noticing the difference between learned behavior and your true nature is key to your happiness. Gate 18 is essential to uplifting and updating society‘s ways, balancing patriarchal and matriarchal patterns. Are the old traditions relevant? With this gate, there is a tendency to blame yourself for everything that appears to go wrong in your life. It is a form of guilt complex that can lead to personal decay. So learn to be softer and kinder to yourself and recognize that your path to relieve yourself and others from conditioning only requires your presence, determination, and alertness. Accepting your weaknesses instead of blaming yourself for them requires an inner strength — and you can fall back on gate 18 to provide it.
Gate 28 The Gate of the Game Player
A subtle undercurrent of the fear of death pulls on gate 28, potentially turning you into a great risk taker who enjoys excess in the ―game of life,ǁ seeking to cram everything into whatever lifetime you‘ve been allotted. Certain cultures insist that life is a play, that humanity produces the characters and that destiny will ultimately be reached. With that awareness, you are here to maximize your role, pushing onward and upward and living a life that is alive and kicking. This can lead to extraordinary moments of sublime courage — or foolhardiness. But you will remain undaunted because the spontaneity of the Spleen means you are always up for a challenge and your nature feels better nourished when you live life on the edge. Of course, some people with this gate can fall prey to the fear of death, and that can become paralyzing and the cause of much inner resistance. Also, there is a risk you could turn into a doormat who has almost given up on life because the concept of death is so restricting. But your nature finds fulfillment when watered with the very juice of life. Living life to the full requires great courage and total commitment, and that is a part of the territory that comes with the Game Player. Can you look life in the eye even when you are beset by chaos and trials? If you can, the game of life is yours for the taking...
Gate 50 The Gate of the Values
This is sometimes called the Cauldron, because this is where values in life cook and simmer. Nothing matters more to this gate than that these values that preserve and support family, workplace, or community are espoused and honored. Values are something that often get handed down from generation to generation or are acquired in the home, church, or school. But with this gate on, you are naturally attuned to what is appropriate or not, fair or unjust, in any situation in any moment. Gate 50 enables you to identify and honor all values and correct actions that, in your book, lead to sustainable and effective living. Some values endure, some need replacing, and your gate 50 will constantly be called on to tune in to the needs of the situation. Your big questions are ―What are the values that are going to best serve society?ǁ and ―Can everyone be encouraged to be personally responsible?ǁ These questions tie in with an inherent fear of taking responsibility. Standing up for right and appropriate values brings the pressure to be an example in society, and you sense that responsibility acutely. This is a heightened fear if your Spleen center is undefined, so fall back on your authority for reassurance and guidance. But no one will be more vociferous than you if you sense that moral decay is jeopardizing the common good or a secure future for the community.
Gate 44 The Gate of Patterns
You have a nose for spotting potential and emerging patterns and trends. Whether this is an instinctive gift employed in the fields of business, finance, creativity, fashion, technology, or any other sphere of life, you utilize a deep cellular memory of the past to sense what is going on in any moment. In this regard, your senses keep you in touch with the present and potential trends for the future. You could be the agent with an instinctive feeling about an emerging talent, a fashion designer who gets a hunch about what the next designs should be, or the economist who can sense trouble brewing in the markets. You can have a nose for news or be able to smell a rat. This ability can also be applied in your personal life, where your instinctive memory can help you detect certain behavioral and repetitive patterns that may be forming in others and could happily be avoided. Ironically, gate 44 has a fear of the past. It‘s as though you are always looking over your shoulder to see if you are clear of whatever happened before. But you can be so busy looking backward that you trip over the present. This is especially the case if you have the Spleen undefined. Not everyone understands your instinctive gift for sensing emerging patterns. Also be aware that the Spleen does not have unlimited supplies of energy — it is more an internal alarm system — so your knack is best applied as a guiding influence rather than a call to personally get involved in everything you sense.
Gate 57 The Gate of the Gentle You are like a gentle but chilly wind that cuts to the bone, penetrating other people‘s auras and the environment around you, detecting harmony or disharmony. Your sharp intuition is constantly updating what is going on around you to safeguard your well-being. People with whom you engage in social interaction could be forgiven for thinking you‘re not listening or paying attention, but your gentle senses will already have read them perfectly; or your gentle persuasion will have seeped in and turned them around. Your inner intuition latches onto the sound of what you‘re hearing to decide its merit or interest, tuning in to the tone and inflection in someone‘s voice and the general sounds around you. Anything abrupt or harsh can trip the intuition of your highly sensitive nature. We live in a world of mayhem and chatter and yet you walk through it oh so gently, guided by what appeals to you and administering slow and gentle change. There is a subtle ―gently does itǁ approach to your life and the influence you wield. Your nature is acoustically sensitive and music needs to be in harmony for you. Plain noise can easily bother you, and you will often tune out from people with discordant, whining voices, especially if you sense underlying agendas and potential complications. Your senses are heightened by an inherent attention to the future and even fear of it. If these ―what if fears take hold, you can be like a deer in headlights and this can destabilize you, especially if your Spleen center is undefined. This is the time to trust your authority. Don‘t be put off by the ways in which you are confronted in life. Trust your intuition and move gently toward challenges — that is your nature.
CROWN If Your Crown Is Undefined
You are open to all sorts of inspirations that seem to pop into your head at odd times. Wherever you go, you find inspiration in all sorts of different company and situations, because you‘re open to the conditioning of other designs. This is why you love to immerse yourself in inspiring environments such as art galleries and movie theaters and connect with artistic people. You yearn to be inspired in this way. This can, however, leave your head spinning with a kaleidoscope of thoughts and inspirations triggered by other people. The risk here is that you‘ll be so influenced by other people‘s thoughts, issues, and puzzles that you‘ll act on them. People can end up carrying someone else‘s flag their whole life and living in someone else‘s shadow. Ask yourself this question: ―Why do I spend so much time thinking about the dilemmas or ideas of others?ǁ Refuse to get caught up in the highbrow conceptualizing flooding your Crown from outside designs and allow your center to act as a receiving dish to the thoughts of others. This is how you turn a conditioning influence into the impassive wisdom that will give you the objectivity to untangle others‘ convoluted thought streams and convey them with clarity. An example would be a student understanding a professor‘s complex take on a subject and writing it out in a more simple way. Remain wary about committing to flash-in-the-pan inspirations, which can be a waste of energy. Use this openness to remain wise.
MIND If Your Mind Is Defined
Your built-in hard drive never stops whirring, processing and backing up its information. Your mind is a human computer, forever comparing, reviewing, and researching. In school or at work, you may have had the sensation that your head was about to burst with all the facts and knowledge overloading you. But when you put your mind to something, you‘ll work it out and race on to the next thing. Many troubleshooters and consultants come armed with such a makeup. You can also be a professional worrier and nitpicker, looking for problems that do not exist. Expressions such as ―You‘re worrying about nothing!ǁ and ―Will you stop worrying about things that haven‘t happened yet?ǁ tend to suggest that a person with a defined Mind is in the room. You just cannot turn off your thoughts and worries. Meditation can quiet your mind, allowing you to distance yourself from racing thoughts, but you have a consistent way of thinking and will find you approach an issue or question in exactly the same way each time.
THROAT If Your Throat Is Defined Here lies the power of expression — but what is expressed, and how, depends on which other defined centers feed into this main hub. All roads lead to the Throat, and so all energies seek a release or voice via this center. For example, a connection with the Mind means you‘ll speak your mind. With the Emotions, you‘ll express your emotions. With the Heart, you‘ll convey your heartfelt wishes. All centers, and their attributes, seek
to be demonstrated at the Throat. When that connection is made, an expression comes via an action, creativity, or communication. You are someone who is consistent in how you communicate, with a voice that carries a certain cadence and confidence. The way you express yourself, therefore, leads to making things happen, catalyzing your goals. Also, you can be a facilitator for great storytelling, the revealing of personal insight, the teaching of sound education, the authority of strong leadership, and the expression of strong opinions, in either you or someone else. You catalyze speech in other people, but you need to be aware that they‘re talking with you rather than at you. People make a beeline simply to chew your ear off, like the person next to you on the long- distance flight who is itching to talk and doesn‘t care that you‘ve got the earphones on and a magazine pressed to your nose. They want to talk to you — and they will! Your center provides them with a much- needed outlet, magnetizing all their pent-up chatter because, more than likely, their Throat is undefined. Take the example of a friend of mine. She has an associate who phones every week and bombards her with forty minutes of constant chat, dumping all their thoughts and issues on her without ever asking about her life and well-being. That‘s why I encourage you to be aware of this phenomenon and make such people aware of what they‘re doing. Because, quite frankly, once they get going, they might never stop!
SELF If Your Self Is Defined ―I know who I am, and I know where I‘m headingǁ is your slogan. You have an assured identity with an equally strong sense of purpose and direction. There is something certain and solid about your character. You seek to be not ―just yourself but also your ―best self.ǁ If you‘re not feeling it, start tapping your built-in compass, because it will always guide you home. Ultimately, you cannot stray for long from a natural sense of self. If you do, you‘re not being true to your nature and you‘ll sense an inner angst or frustration, as if you‘re swimming against the tide. But the majority of the time you are resolute, believing you are who you are and that‘s not going to change. The downside is that you can be diverted to shepherd those who feel lost. If you‘re not careful you could look behind and find an entourage of hangers-on dragging you down. Yet you can be immovable when you find a true path, a pursuit, or a partner you set your sights on, and there is an indefatigable consistency about what you seek. There is a―Nothing is going to stop meǁ quality about your chosen direction.
HEART If Your Heart Is Undefined The majority of people have an undefined Heart. In this case, you might yearn to be a powerhouse, but your heart‘s not designed to be in it. You have nothing to prove and must live your life accordingly. People may well ask, ―What exactly do you want out of life?ǁ or ―Where‘s your willpower?ǁ Having this center undefined does not mean you don‘t have willpower; it simply means it is not consistent within you. If anything, it is that uncertain aspect that makes you compete with others and work harder. The danger is to compare yourself with others and over-compete, then come up short and struggle with how you value yourself. That is why it is important to understand that you have no need to prove anything — to yourself or anyone else with expectations of you. If you do, you are likely to get caught in the tug-of-war between the universal good and the ego. You can find yourself in situations where matters of ego can be triggered, causing you to be fiercely competitive. This is a conditioning influence. To turn it into impassive wisdom, step away from the ego and allow yourself to be content to mirror back life‘s intrinsic values to others without having to prove yourself through your actions. You have your own access to truth, so listen to yourself and be good to your heart. You also have the flexibility and growing wisdom to guide others in what they want out of life. You can put an objective value on the material as well as spiritual aspects of life. The middle square center, second one up from the bottom of the life chart, is the Sacral. Also called the generator center, this is the engine room of the Human Design system, powered by life-force energy. As such, it generates the juice that aims trees toward the sky, empowers baby birds to crack out of their shells, and enables us to endure amazing hardship in life. It is the powerhouse center that fuels growth, expansion, and life. It harnesses an energy that has no awareness — it is just raw power, like a mechanical generator humming away, ready to unleash its stored energy. Sometimes this center is referred to as the ―sex centerǁ because the majority of its gates have a sexual undertone. Physically, it also relates to the testes and ovaries. The vast majority of the world‘s population — about 70 percent — has a defined Sacral with the potential to run with this unstoppable energy. Yet, paradoxically, those people rarely know how to utilize it in a way that brings about personal fulfillment. Having something powerful in your hands doesn‘t necessarily mean you know how to use it, but knowing this energy resides within can be a wake-up call. Our sexual drive and urges also stem from this center, opening up all manner of human interaction and co-creation. It‘s important to appreciate that ―sacral,ǁ ―sacred,ǁ and ―sexǁ are closely interlinked. This center offers a commentary on the barriers you may or may not establish in your sex life and your approach to intimacy.
SACRAL If Your Sacral Is Defined You are here in this world with the natural ability to respond to whatever life offers you. Whether you realize it or not, you have a continuous stream of life-force energy to draw on in order to sustain any endeavor that earns your commitment. But because this is a motor with no ―off switch, once your Sacral energy is unleashed, there‘s no turning back. Its momentum means it is has to be engaged until the experience is complete. Therefore, you must be sure about deciding what and who warrants your time and energy. The Sacral is where the gut response resides. ―I‘m following my gut,ǁ you might say, and this is a natural reaction within you and a reliable guide. You‘ll recognize this response emanating from within: either an upbeat ―uh-huhǁ for something that feels right or a frown- inducing ―uh-uhǁ for something that feels wrong. This is your gut, which is not to be confused with your emotions. A gut response might also be experienced as a rising or contracting of energy without sound, pulling you to or from someone or something. It is an ongoing tragedy that people with this defined center often find themselves going through life unappreciated, slogging away as the workhorse, slave, or gopher fulfilling others‘ projects. There can be a self-perception that that‘s all they are good for. There are scores of employees out there feeling unappreciated, and countless assistants and secretaries whose powerhouse energy and unstinting effort go relatively unrewarded and unrecognized but who make their bosses shine. There is a saying that behind every successful man lies a brilliant woman. I would make it less gender-specific and say instead: ―Behind successful people, look to the person supporting them and see if their Sacral is defined.ǁ More often than not, it will be. What would they do and where would they be without you?! Know that you are designed to be a powerhouse. Some of you might say that you don‘t feel that way, and that can be true if your energy has not been harnessed properly. What I‘m pointing out is the potential reserves within, waiting to be harnessed. When you do get motoring, you‘ll find other people have trouble keeping up, and this can make you feel obliged to take on their tasks as well as your own. But what you‘ll notice is that throwing your weight behind an endeavor that pleases you will give you a buzz, so it therefore must be right. Intolerance, boredom, frustration, or impatience with an activity suggests you have committed to the wrong thing. Learn to heed your gut response. Wait for that upbeat ―uh-huhǁ or downbeat ―uh-uhǁ as your guide. With this center defined, sex, for you, is a driving force. This means not that you are naturally a lady-killer or a seductress, but that you have the potential for a sustained and satisfying sex life, provided you make the right connections. This means exercising discipline and discernment rather than just unleashing the energy at every given opportunity. If you‘re in tune with your gut over sexual partners, you‘ll find harmony. If you indulge in reckless abandon, then frustration and depression are likely to arise. You may sometimes find yourself over-burdened and unsatisfied with partners and projects, and you may ask what you have done to deserve this. The answer is simple: you have committed to people and projects indiscriminately. You have taken on too much. You have promised too much. It is therefore vital to take your needs into account — first! No one is indispensable, not even someone with a defined Sacral. If you happen to have both the Sacral and Heart defined, you are a positive whirlwind of energy, a nonstop go-getter. Your level of achievement can defy comprehension, but you truly have to find the things you love to do — and find time to rest up, because otherwise your huge efforts and sustainable energy can leave you flat on your back.
EMOTIONAL If Your Emotions Are Undefined You will probably consider yourself an emotional person when, in fact, you are actually riding the emotions transmitted by others. You laugh their laughs and cry their tears. So what you must realize is that your emotions are triggered by the emotional impact of others. Your natural state, when alone, is to be cool, calm, and collected. What tends to happen when you step outside that personal space is that you get caught in other people‘s emotional waves. This is a conditioning influence because your design isn‘t made to cope with such intensity of feeling. People with this center undefined have the greatest trouble in allowing themselves to feel emotions. If you‘re not comfortable in your own skin at certain moments, it messes with your nature, inducing confusion, temper, or frustration. On the plus side, if you‘re in the middle of a football stadium being swept away by an air of triumph, you‘ll feel that glory and celebration. If you‘re attending a religious ceremony, you‘ll share the blessed uprising. But you are potentially subject to the emotions of those around you, whether healthy or toxic, so you must remain aware and watchful. To transform this conditioning influence into impassive wisdom, learn to not react to emotions that are not part of you. Instead, reflect back your clear perception of what is going on, observed from the objective sidelines. Be a witness, not a player. Put another way, if those with the defined center are flailing in the sea of their emotions, you are someone on the shoreline, observing. This is where you have a choice: you can either dive in and magnify those emotions or stay out of the sea and reflect back to those people what is transpiring and how to be responsible about it.
SPLEEN If Your Spleen Is Defined You are spontaneous and highly intuitive, designed to react to life on the spur of the moment, always on your toes. You also glow, lighting up a room with your presence because of a radiating feel-good factor. A spontaneous sensibility scans your environment for any sense of threat or discord, always sensing what‘s good or bad, but exuding warmth with your touch and manner. You are a curious mix of the alert and ever-watchful bodyguard and the well-being healer. There is a brightness to your presence, supported by a sense of humor that is often sharp and dry. Laughter is, after all, the best form of medicine. But behind the smiles, you are designed to pay attention to your senses, to disengage the moment your intuition, instinct, or taste warns you. Enter a party where the DJ is playing discordant music or where the atmosphere smells unpleasant, and you‘ll be alerted. Don‘t be afraid to turn on your heel and get out of there. These warning signals apply to any environment: someone‘s home, the workplace, restaurants, and shopping malls. They don‘t necessarily denote danger; they merely mean there is something there that doesn‘t fit with your nature. But heed them, however illogical they may seem to others, for they are your true guide. Otherwise, wrong environments can lead to your becoming sick because they put your immune system out of synch. Your natural — and best — reflexes will come as readily as a click of the fingers. Your whole life is best lived in the moment because of this spontaneity. Yet it also means your antennae are always twitching, and this can lead you to behave like a nervous Nellie. You‘re liable to be watchful for any conceivable threat and to weigh the risk around every corner. In fact, it is a wonder that you ever step out of the house in the morning! There is a tendency to fear this and fear that, because your survival mechanism is constantly on. This is the mother who is petrified of letting her child go out to play, or the insurance company‘s dream — the person determined to cover every risk. The specific fears that can be aroused within you depend on the gates that are turned on within your center, and all this will be examined later in the book. But in order to calm this characteristic, you need to be aware of when this over protectiveness kicks in and then adopt a more realistic attitude. The Spleen is fearful by nature, so stay alert, but don‘t allow this to stop your life from happening. Also, a defined Spleen tends to mean a strong immune system, helping you battle illness. If you are constantly sick, it might well be the case that you‘re ignoring your intuitive senses. At the bottom of the life chart sits the square center of the Root, the launchpad for all activity in life because it houses our adrenaline and processes stress. As the second of the two pressure centers, it applies the pressure to act. The Root exists in a condition of stillness and joy, providing a sense of being rooted and grounded. If the other pressure center, the Crown, applies an urgency to rationalize life, then the Root applies pressure to engage with and perform in life. It is, by nature, a center of raw energy, but if it were to have a voice, when triggered, it would scream at you, ―Lights, camera, action!ǁ The modern-day world heaps expectation on our shoulders with the pressure to be effective, profitable, productive, brilliant, and able to complete a laundry list of tasks. The Root blindly provides the push to get on with things — and cope. Ambition is one of nine characteristics of this center. The others are joyfulness, stillness, contentiousness, restlessness, limitation, neediness, provocation, and imagination. These individual characteristics are determined by which gates are on and are explored later. Anatomically, the Root relates to the adrenal glands, providing us with the stimulus that turns us into adrenaline junkies or provides that adrenaline rush. But, of course, we can also become stressaholics and permanently maxed out.
ROOT If Your Root Is Defined You have the means to handle, withstand, and create extraordinary pressure that calls you and others to perform. All imposed or presumed deadlines are triggered in the Root and you have to gauge whether any goal or time frame is essential or even attainable without losing balance. There is an intense drive from within, almost a compulsion to act. You are sitting on a volcano of energy that could erupt at any moment. Such pressure can blast you, and any person or project around you, into any number of different orbits. Your natural state is to be living in the eye of the hurricane, finding calm and stillness amid the madness. When you can calmly smile to yourself in the middle of chaos, you‘ve found balance. You thrive on adrenaline rushes, so once you‘ve mastered how to find your poise in any situation, the crazier life gets, the more you enjoy it. You are, by nature, an adrenaline junkie, and as such you can be adept at handling stressful situations. You may well adopt a classic symptom of someone with this center defined: the inability to sit still. Your leg may be bouncing or your foot tapping, indicating the adrenaline and restlessness coursing through you. You are expert at getting people and things launched, the one who lights the fuse. I would counsel you to marshal the pressure that builds within you. Learn not to jump into something just because it sets off your adrenal glands, because the wrong pursuits or situations can send you off-balance and leave you with stress that not even the Root can handle. The Root is all about finding equilibrium in your life while pursuing your goals and chasing worthwhile ambitions.
TYPE 2 THE GENERATOR
“Listen to Your Gut!” A Generator has a defined Sacral, but neither this center nor any of the other motor centers — Heart, Emotions, and Root — are connected to the Throat by an active channel. You are a workhorse with endless life-force energy radiating outward but don‘t find it that easy to make things happen. Some effort is required before you get into your full stride and reach your potential. You are designed not to initiate but to wait. Your motto is: ―Wait, respond, then get going!ǁ Being a Generator makes you relatively one paced but highly effective, and your momentum is a joy to watch because it is Sacral powered, therefore remarkably enduring. You are the Duracell or Energizer battery that keeps on going and going when others are fading. Your challenge is to know how and where to best apply this enormous energy. Waiting for the right projects, opportunities, and people and honoring your gut response are your keys to finding fulfillment. When you chase or initiate without waiting, life can go wrong. It‘s when you attract opportunity or respond after exercising patience that things tend to work out. We live in a time when everyone wants to act now, get going, waste no time, achieve ASAP. This expectation may taunt you into getting a move on, but don‘t be misled into thinking you must launch great initiatives. You first need the energy to generate within you; only then is it capable and effective. So sit down, be patient, and master the art of waiting to respond. View yourself as a magnet and let people and openings seek you out. And they will. It is an energetic law of life that magnets attract. So if you are wailing something like, ―Why does everything I start or chase turn out bad?ǁ or ―Why can he make those things happen but I can‘t?ǁ my answer would be: ―Because you haven‘t learned to wait and attract.ǁ Don‘t initiate. Wait. Your mistaken self-perception is that you have so much energy that you can automatically make things happen. That‘s probably fueled by people describing you as purposeful and dedicated. You walk into the workplace and your life-force energy radiates, lifting everyone else. Here comes the real worker, the real juice — the Generator. You can save the day — and you even believe this yourself. Whether it feels right or not, you have a tendency to wade in and answer the call. Hours later, you‘ll be head down, hard at work, and look up to find everyone has gone back to sleep. Then you‘ll have a quiet word with yourself and ask: ―Why does it always fall to me? Why did I ever get involved? What you must realize is that the only things that prove fulfilling are those that duly arrive after you have exercised patience — openings or possibilities that arrive at your door or make your phone ring. Then what‘s crucial is your response. This response is governed by a built-in guidance system, the Sacral gut response, signaling who and what warrants your commitment. This is the core secret of your inner being, one that opens the doorway to what‘s right for you. You‘ll recognize this gut sensation in the form of an involuntary reflex or sound, or the rising or contracting of energy, pulling you to or pushing you away from something. The sound is that familiar ―uh-huhǁ which says ―yesǁ or that ―uh-uhǁ that says ―no.ǁ You need to attune to this sensation because it is, quite literally, your built- in indicator. You‘ll sense your gut in response to questions that people ask of you: ―Can I ask for your help?ǁ ―Do you want to go on a date?ǁ or ―Are you hungry?ǁ But it also kicks in with much more profound questions that life asks. Test yourself the next time someone asks you something, but be aware that you might be waiting for an instantaneous gut response and, half a second later, the Mind will get involved. Don‘t allow it to distract you. That‘s not where your answer lies. Listen to your gut. Also, observe inner musings that don‘t require a direct question. If you are sitting in a restaurant, looking at a menu, going through the entrée choices, your ―uh-huhǁ or ―uh-uhǁ will kick in. Listen to your gut. Your process is played out thus: wait for what life offers, listen to your gut response, then get going. Gayle is a Generator and has learned more and more to tune in to her gut response. She was once being pursued by four potential suitors and was torn about to whom she should commit. After a Human Design reading, she needed to distance herself from the fog of her fears and presumptions, none of which played a part in a natural gut response. She stood in her bedroom, looked in the mirror, and created a yes/no question for her gut to answer. One by one, she named the four men. “Should I go out with Doug?” She felt that “uh-uh” for no. “Should I go out with Marshall?” Again, she felt “uh-uh.” “Should I go out with Michel?” Once more, “uh-uh.” Finally, she came to Nick and felt a clear “uh-huh.” There was her “yes” answer. Somewhere in her being, Nick resonated with her, and this was her clear guidance to give him a chance. The mistake Generators can make is to think too much, allowing the Mind to override the Sacral. When this fog blurs the gut response, you find yourself committing to all kinds of wrong people and wrong pursuits. And then, the trouble for the Sacral is that once it is committed, it has to follow through and complete the experience, however inappropriate or ill-fitting. Quitting is a poor option — and this is one thing that requires understanding — because once your energetic momentum gets going, it‘s engaged. Your nature builds up such a head of steam by waiting and waiting that it doesn‘t know how to stop the momentum. It‘s like asking a thundering express train to stop at a moment‘s notice. As a non-Generator, you might see people running toward disaster but you‘ll be powerless to stop them. You must wait for them to return to their senses in their own time — exhausted, unfulfilled, and ready to try again. Generators must be wary of other people seeking to harness their energy, to take advantage of them. A lot of them are found in the service industry, on the factory floor, or as assistants, secretaries, and personal trainers, with a treadmill-like momentum that keeps things ticking like clockwork. That‘s because Generators provide the juice for most things. If you are a Generator, you represent 37 percent of the world‘s population and appear to be someone with enough power to raise the dead. Your energy turns heads when you enter a room. You‘re viewed as capable and unflagging. I bet you‘re someone who rolls out of bed, cooks breakfast, drops the kids off at school, goes to work, gives your all, fixes other people‘s stuff, works out at lunchtime, impresses the boss some more in the afternoon, goes home, does the laundry, fixes the dinner, bathes the children, puts them to bed, then turns to your partner — and collapses in a heap. No one, except other Generator types, can hope to keep up with you. The problem is that you can arrive at the end of your days feeling you‘ve accomplished a lot but still feeling unfulfilled. That‘s because, in large part, you‘ve just been going through the motions. Life is not just about ticking boxes and keeping others happy. Herein lies the key to a Generator design: only engage with people and activities that resonate; otherwise, you‘ll discover the flip side to your type and become the pure couch potato who has given up, exhausted with life and fed up trying. Or you can become someone who is wiped out, prone on your bed, waiting for energy to be regenerated. I would also advise everyone not to throw too much, all at once, at a Generator. However capable and energetic they seem, there‘s only so much responding they can do. You‘ll know they‘ve reached their limit when their hands go up and they say: ―Enough!ǁ Or when, feeling overwhelmed, they simply ask for space. As parents of Generator children, your task is to clue them into their gut response if you want them — and you — to avoid tears and frustration. There is no point in handing a child a trumpet and expecting him or her to master it if it doesn‘t resonate with the child. It‘s a waste of time for dads to coach their boys in baseball or football if this fails to excite. Parents need to understand the distinction between their expectations for their children and what actually resonates with those children. Likewise in relationships, it is asking for trouble to declare to your Generator lover that you‘ve decided what you‘re doing for the weekend and drag your partner off to the beach for a picnic without first sounding out his or her gut response. Partners should learn to ask Generators questions that start with queries such as ―Would you like to do this today?ǁ or ―Do you think it‘s a good idea if we...?ǁ Don‘t worry about being ―man enoughǁ and taking control; honor the Generator nature, not the ego. These people require consultation if your relationship is to work.
FAMOUS GENERATORS Muhammad Ali, Fred Astaire, Beethoven, Bill Clinton, Madonna, Margaret Thatcher, and Oprah Winfrey. The common theme here is the bundles of energy that sustain prime ministers and presidents and artistes. Plus, there is a perseverance and unstoppable momentum about them. Whirlwinds in their own right, many of these greats, I suspect, nevertheless needed to wait and allow the Sacral energy to build before releasing themselves into full flight. And I would love to know how much gut instinct played its part in the decision making of Thatcher and Clinton!
Over the years, I‘ve met thousands of Generators and have tried to point out what makes them tick. Some of them get it straightaway, but far too many have fallen prey to conditioning and are slogging away as workhorses in situations where their unstinting efforts are taken for granted. It is indisputable that wrong people and projects will fly high because of a Generator‘s input, but that‘s not the point to their life. They need to find where their amazing source of energy is best directed and appreciated. Geraldine is a hardworking mother with three delightful but extremely demanding children. She saw it as her duty to fulfill any demands they asked of her at any time. However, despite the pleasure she derived from this, she was exhausted and more than a little frustrated that she rarely had the time and energy for anything else. In a classic Generator situation, the attention and demands of others were depleting her. Since she could not afford a nanny, there seemed no solution and she gradually found herself getting more and more worn out.At my reading for Geraldine, she had no idea she had such a bountiful Sacral. She just assumed she was being run ragged and operated on autopilot. When she learned that she had an infallible built-in indicator system capable of letting her know which activities worked best for her, she immediately began changing the way she lived.She actually saw the importance of educating her children to approach her in a different way. Instead of “I want” demands, she coached the children to ask questions that required a yes/no response. She was savvy enough to disguise this shift into a playful set of new rules. To her delight, the questions elicited a reliable gut response and now she only commits to the activities that resonate. This, in turn, has empowered the children to be more resourceful, and they’re delighted to see Mom having more satisfaction — and energy — in her life. I tell all Generators to acknowledge the blessing they are. As a Generator, you may well be harboring fears that you‘ll miss the boat if you don‘t act now or that everything will go wrong if you don‘t jump in and seize control. But trust your nature. Trust the person you were born to be — and wait to respond.
THE SACRAL AUTHORITY “Follow Your Gut.” This is your strategy if the Sacral is defined and the Emotions are undefined. Your correct decision-making process is about ―following your gutǁ — and trusting it. Am I seriously telling you that your best decisions in life will stem from that sensation in the lower belly? Yes, I am. Indeed, you were born with a natural inclination to follow the gut, but this was quickly drummed out of you by well-meaning parents and teachers who provided the conditioning to use the Mind instead. The most important thing for anyone with Sacral Authority to appreciate is that this inner guidance system is only ever effective when in response. It is not proactive; it is responsive. Thus, your authority is designed to wait until there is a clear response that speaks from the lower belly with an ―uh-huhǁ for ―yesǁ and ―uh-uhǁ for ―no,ǁ or that sensation of being drawn toward or repelled by something. If there is no response, this in itself implies a lack of interest at the time. This authority needs to be applied to everything in life. It is not healthy for you to commit to, or engage in, anything without first waiting and then receiving a gut response in agreement. You‘ve got to be careful not to be tempted into making decisions just because of conditioning or the people around you. An emotional friend with a contagious excitement could make an idea sound like the best thing since sliced bread; an iron-willed colleague could make a persuasive argument to commit your vast life-force energy to an important project. At such times, your authority demands that you sit and wait for your gut response to make its voice known. Because, as we already know, once you commit, there is no stopping your being carried onward by the Sacral‘s relentless momentum.Learning to get out of the head and into the gut is how you‘ll learn to make wiser decisions. Many people with a defined Sacral struggle to differentiate between gut response and emotional reaction. A response is patient, relaxed, and measured, whereas a reaction is an unconscious reflex and hasty. With practice, you‘ll learn to notice the difference and hone this authoritative skill within you. With that in mind, I will now give you something to ponder. Consider a time in your life when you made an important decision that turned out to be one you regretted, be that a decision to get married or let someone go, sell your house or buy a car, move to another country or move down the street. Now recall how you made that decision. Were you over-analyzing and thinking too much? Did the influence of another person convince you in some way? Were you feeling obliged to commit? Rewind and review it all. Look at what unfolded when you made that poor decision. Now consider an important decision where everything turned out favorably and you felt an inner harmony. How did you make that decision? Did you, perhaps, wait, trust your gut, and then go for it? Your golden key to making correct and consistently better decisions lies in identifying the answers to these questions. One Important Note When you have both the Spleen and Sacral defined, your gut response becomes greatly enhanced by the Spleen senses. This means that your gut is fast-tracked into an instantaneous split-second response.
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